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Speaker 1 (1m 52s): Well, I am thrilled today to be here with my beautiful wife. And you're Dr. Isabelle talking about her favorite flower in the world, the sunflowers,
Speaker 0 (2m 4s): Babe. You know, I love the sunflowers.
Speaker 1 (2m 7s): Yes. And we're going to talk about lessons, life blessings that we've gotten from this season, sunflower crop.
Speaker 0 (2m 16s): Yes. The lessons who would have ever thought that you could get such a deep life lesson from the sunflower crop,
Speaker 1 (2m 25s): The sunflowers have taught us a lot this year. Haven't
Speaker 0 (2m 29s): Well, they've definitely spanked me. That's for sure.
Speaker 1 (2m 33s): So we're going to talk about two main lessons over the life that we learned from the sunflowers this year that we can all apply to our life and doing that though. Let's talk about the sunflower story and how this all came about.
Speaker 0 (2m 49s): Do you want me
Speaker 1 (2m 50s): To, I think I'll jump in on that. How's that? And then I'll jump in and then you can let me know if I've kinda got this right. I'm
Speaker 0 (2m 58s): Sure.
Speaker 1 (2m 58s): I'm sure. Well, in this year, sunflower crop would, they were going really great. They got started off. Well, they were, let's say that's about two feet high. So whatever that is and centimeters and meters and all that, but they were about two feet high. So take two of your shoes and stack them up in the air. And that's about two feet, whatever, but they were coming along very nicely. It was early season and they were just getting, going and looking really good.
And we both said, wow, look at these guys. They're taking off this. You're going fast. Looking strong, looking really good.
Speaker 0 (3m 41s): I was very, very proud of them because they were abundant.
Speaker 1 (3m 45s): Yes, yes. They were looking very abundant. And then a tropical storm came blowing through. It was windy and it was raining. And however it continued on for a couple of days. And what happened was the ground got very soft. So their soil was really soft and the wind was howling. And when we came out in the morning and had a look,
Speaker 0 (4m 13s): Yeah, my babies were, they were splattered.
Speaker 1 (4m 17s): They were all laying basically. What do you call it? Horizontal
Speaker 0 (4m 24s): Daddy and mommy going help.
Speaker 1 (4m 27s): And they were all pretty much laying flat to the ground. You know, a little bit of bend left, but pretty much flat to the ground.
Speaker 0 (4m 34s): They weren't putting on the show. They, they were the day
Speaker 1 (4m 36s): Before they got smashed by this storm. And so when that happened, my dear, what was your response?
Speaker 0 (4m 46s): Well, I waited a couple of days, you know, cause the sun did come up and I waited and I waited and I waited because I wanted them. I wanted them to come back up.
Speaker 1 (4m 57s): Yes she
Speaker 0 (4m 57s): Did. However, after about two and a half days, I was like, that's it I'm pulling them all out. There were maybe I'd say easily 60 of them. I said, I'm babe, I'm going to pull each and every one of these out I've had it. I'm going to replant
Speaker 1 (5m 13s): And start again,
Speaker 0 (5m 14s): Start over again. These just aren't going to make it. I was a frustrated planter.
Speaker 1 (5m 23s): And you were a frustrated coach.
Speaker 0 (5m 26s): I was a frustrated
Speaker 1 (5m 27s): Collector.
Speaker 0 (5m 29s): I was like, I was looking at the sunflowers going, come on, get back up, get back.
Speaker 1 (5m 35s): You
Speaker 0 (5m 35s): Can do this. You can do this. The sun is out. Come on neighbor. Like they'd cough at me.
Speaker 1 (5m 43s): Oh, you just said, nah, you guys are done. You're out of here.
Speaker 0 (5m 46s): And by the grace of God, they had Michael and mommy and my mom
Speaker 1 (5m 52s): And I thought, nah, let's I think they got to come by. Let's help him out little bit. And I put together a string, a very let's just say it was very amateurish, but it worked. It was like a string fence and kind of prop them up again. Put them up against a little bit of a string fence. I put up
Speaker 0 (6m 16s): Cotton, cotton string.
Speaker 1 (6m 17s): Yeah. Cotton stray. And just thought, okay, well let's give them, let's see what happens. Let's give them a chance. And your mom, who is a sunflower queen.
Speaker 0 (6m 27s): Yeah. Who lives in Washington? DC. Independently in her fifth floor college. And she's 97 years young. And she will tell you the backstory on that in just a few moments. But she and Michael were talking and they both said, keep Isabelle away from her son. And every time mommy would talk to me, she goes, my meta that's me. That's in Spanish. That's little mama. She'd say Mamita, leave them alone. Give them time, give them time. And so I would hear him, you know, for mom, give them time, give them time.
And then Michael would say, babe, give them time. Give them time.
Speaker 1 (7m 4s): Yeah. So I helped them out a little bit, built a nice little string fence for them. And what happened?
Speaker 0 (7m 12s): Well, they started to wake up and go, Hey everybody, I think I can do this. And they started coming back up towards the sun. Yeah. Straight up and down.
Speaker 1 (7m 23s): And what happened with the crop this year? How was it?
Speaker 0 (7m 30s): I was bragging about them on Instagram story and Facebook store. I was like, go look it on crop. Look at our crop. Luckily this coach stepped back and let the other patient coaches step in
Speaker 1 (7m 42s): A little patience.
Speaker 0 (7m 45s): Yeah. The inner circle. I was in the inner circle and I needed to be pushed out of the inner circle because I wasn't being very supportive.
Speaker 1 (7m 51s): Oh, you're jumping into my number one law here.
Speaker 0 (7m 55s): Actually. I thought I was doing a bridge.
Speaker 1 (7m 57s): Oh, you're bridging it. I missed it. You had an amazing bridge there. I wasn't quite ready to jump across the bridge yet, but now yes, I understand. But you said you were going to give a little bit of a backstory.
Speaker 0 (8m 12s): So the backstory is when Michael and I moved to New Zealand.
Speaker 1 (8m 15s): Oh wait, no, let's skip this backstory. I don't like this.
Speaker 0 (8m 19s): Yeah. Well you don't like the backstory. I didn't like how I reacted to this
Speaker 1 (8m 24s): Story. You know your turn for me.
Speaker 0 (8m 26s): It's all, we're all, we're all getting better pay, you know, even still I'm trying to get better. So the backstory is we moved from America to New Zealand in 2000 and mommy came and stayed with us for three months. And I said to mom, I go, I'm going to plant some sunflowers. And she goes, okay, you can do it. And so I was like, okay, I'm going to do it. And then Michael, at that time, who hadn't read a lot of personal development books, It was kind of negative.
Yeah. Well at least. But yeah. But yeah, anyway, he said, I'm not going to grow. They're not going to grow. And my mom said, don't listen to him, plant them. They're going to grow. And I'm like, gosh, did they grow? They grew. And they smiled in Michael's face every single morning for about three months. So the moral of that story, which I learned and Michael continues to learn is don't listen to people that say, it's not going to work.
If in your heart, you know, it's gonna work. And you got people that are supporting you, then go for it. Don't listen to the negative Sayers. And even people that are the closest and Michael, I love my husband and he loves me dearly. But at that point I had to like, even people that love you, you have to turn down the microphone if they're not being supportive, because they're probably not in a good space, they can't support you. Yeah. So I turned down the microphone to Michael and then I turned up the microphone to mommy and we had a Poolman crop of sunflowers.
And you will until this last breath on earth hero about that story. And so I wanted to say, so when I said, babe, now, you know, Hey, we're going to let's plant some sunflowers along that fence. This is a different house. We're in a different place right now. Our next one of our neighbors and said, oh, they're not going to grow. And I was like, huh, I have a memory of somebody saying that to me. And you know what? Those sunflowers have been growing year after year after year and smiling at them as they drive out of their driving, their, their driveway.
So the moral of the story is if people don't believe in your dream, then find people that do.
Speaker 1 (10m 48s): Yeah. And also what I just listening to you, what I've realized is you, our mom was right both times and every time
Speaker 0 (10m 59s): It's called,
Speaker 1 (10m 60s): Well, the wisdom. Yeah. At 97, she's got massive wisdom.
Speaker 0 (11m 3s): Well, they say you don't start getting full of wisdom until after 40 that's when it starts occurring. Appearing accruing
Speaker 1 (11m 13s): Cruelly. Yeah. So today lessons from a sunflower, well, there's the backstory on the sunflowers, but now what are those lessons? Well, I've got two lessons that I want to talk about today. Number one is what's called the law of the inner circle and the law of the inner circle is who are you surrounding yourself by? Are you surrounding yourself by those who are going to empower you up, lift you? Are they gonna walk along your journey with you?
Or are they going to hold you back? Who is your inner circle? And in this last circumstance, we had to get Isabelle to step from being in the inner circle with the
Speaker 0 (11m 56s): Sunflower. Wasn't in a good state of mind. I felt like a failure. You see, I take it personally. I took it completely personally. So this coach had to step back.
Speaker 1 (12m 8s): I have a
Speaker 0 (12m 9s): Gracefully.
Speaker 1 (12m 10s): Yes, you gracefully. Did I have a great quote for you? And it goes like this. I know that I have more potential that I haven't reached yet. And if someday I want to get there. I have to have an inner circle of people who believe in me and empower me.
Speaker 0 (12m 31s): Amen.
Speaker 1 (12m 32s): So what the law of the inner circle did and with the lessons from the sunflowers, it helped us to understand that no matter where we are, what we're doing in life, you need to have your inner circle. And if you don't understand what your inner circle is, that's just the really tight knit ones that are with you. That they're there, your friends, your family, who you can always count on, who are always there for you, who is just that, you know, we all have a very tight inner circle where the, maybe it's two, it's three or possibly five, but they're the ones who you can always be talking to are always there for you, always in your corner.
And so that inner circle, it is so important to make sure that you have people that believe in you empower you and are going to lift you up and take you to where you want to go help. Not necessarily take you, but just be there for you to say, you know what? Okay. Like I had to get kicked out of the sunflower inner circle. The first time
Speaker 0 (13m 37s): You weren't there,
Speaker 1 (13m 38s): I wasn't there
Speaker 0 (13m 40s): Emotionally. Weren't there.
Speaker 1 (13m 41s): You guys had to tune me out and take me out of that inner circle.
Speaker 0 (13m 45s): And then boom, 20 years later, oh man.
Speaker 1 (13m 52s): And you know, down, but not out, they were down, but they
Speaker 0 (13m 58s): Were not,
Speaker 1 (14m 1s): They were down but not out. That's right. And that's a happens to all of us in life. I'm sure at one point of your life and possibly many times, because I can tell you it's been many times for us where we've been down. Life's really done some trampling on us, but we were not out. We were never out. It always bounced back. And that's the key is you can be down, but I'm not out.
Speaker 0 (14m 28s): You gotta get back up
Speaker 1 (14m 30s): And make sure number one lesson today is make sure that inner circle, the law of the inner circle has to be there for you to believe in you and empower you.
Speaker 0 (14m 40s): And if you've got people in the inner circle that aren't supporting or empowering and encouraging you because they're cancer, because they will infect you with their yuckiness and they'll bring you down, you have to get them out. It's like having a bad apple in a basket of apples that bad apples going to ferment, make stinky, make them all bad. So get rid of the bad apple, even if it's me.
Speaker 1 (15m 12s): So the number two law that we got from the lessons from this year, sunflower crop is the law of the process. The sunflowers did not come back in one day. Now, even for two days, I mean for you, hon, you hung in there two, three days and an act that's it. But they didn't come back in a day, however weeks later, and this was weeks, it was two to three weeks later and they just kept slowly coming back up. But there was a process of them coming back.
And a month later you could look at them and go, oh my gosh, they're all back up. They're strong. They're growing. They're all looking great. So it took somewhere between two to four weeks for them to get back up strong, get back to where they were going. And then they came on with a great crop. So there's a,
Speaker 0 (16m 1s): Because you gave them the support they needed.
Speaker 1 (16m 4s): Well, they had a good inner circle. They had a good inner circle and I gave them the support
Speaker 0 (16m 8s): With the cotton string, hon, really? I mean that, that they were like, oh, if I just hold on here and then follow the sun, which is your, my light, I'll get to, I'll get back up. Cause they have a memory. They know how they're supposed to be.
Speaker 1 (16m 23s): Yeah. Yeah. They knew what they were supposed to do. Yeah. It was just a matter of getting the support from the inner circle.
Speaker 0 (16m 30s): And I was learning all of this stuff every single day. As I walked back to the site,
Speaker 1 (16m 34s): The out the window,
Speaker 0 (16m 38s): There's a lesson here
Speaker 1 (16m 41s): For you, all of you out Of the process now in the law of the process, I want to talk about the four phases of the process. So number one, as it's for us, human beings would be, I don't know what I don't know. And basically that means I don't really know that I should make some changes. I don't really know that some things should happen in my life. I'm not even open to thinking about anything happening or changing or making, you know, difference in becoming better and who I am.
Like for me the first time with the sunflowers, it was kinda like, oh, wait a second. Why is my thought process so negative? But I didn't know that. I didn't know that it was like that because it wasn't
Speaker 0 (17m 31s): That you had a foul
Speaker 1 (17m 33s): Thought process.
Speaker 0 (17m 37s): I just lay it as it is. Right. That's
Speaker 1 (17m 39s): It. So the first phase of the process was, I don't know what I don't know. And that's when you don't even realize that, Hey, something needs to change here. Right? And number then the number two step in the, in the phases of the processes. I know what, I don't know. All of a sudden you realize, oh, oh, my thinking is yucky.
Speaker 0 (18m 2s): Holy moly. I don't know a lot of stuff. I ain't got to start learning.
Speaker 1 (18m 6s): Do you ever, and this is for everybody. Have you ever just started to learn about something new and you thought, oh yeah. I'm just going to do a little something on learning about this and yeah. Okay. And then you start to learn it and then, you know, oh my gosh, there is so much here to learn. Wow. There's a lot to learn.
Speaker 0 (18m 27s): I don't
Speaker 1 (18m 28s): Know anything about any of this. Wow. There's like, I thought there was one chapter there's 85 chapters. I need to learn
Speaker 0 (18m 34s): Plus 10 more bucks.
Speaker 1 (18m 38s): So I know what I don't know. And that's when you start to really think, oh, okay. Ah, there's some stuff for me to learn here.
Speaker 0 (18m 45s): A lot of the
Speaker 1 (18m 45s): Process learning about life, step
Speaker 0 (18m 47s): Two
Speaker 1 (18m 48s): And then number three is grow and know, then it starts to show because now I'm learning, I'm growing and it actually starts to showing me and I'll use that example of back in the day with me and being negative about the sunflowers. I pretty much had kind of a cause of life hadn't for that point, hadn't gone the way we wanted a lot of things that happened that weren't that great. And I started to develop a, a negative cynical,
Speaker 0 (19m 21s): Critical,
Speaker 1 (19m 22s): Critical,
Speaker 0 (19m 23s): Wow, wow.
Speaker 1 (19m 25s): Easily.
Speaker 0 (19m 32s): Ah, come on back here. My buddy
Speaker 1 (19m 37s): And yeah,
Speaker 0 (19m 38s): Wait, there's more.
Speaker 1 (19m 40s): And that's where I was. But then I started to realize, oh man, this is where I am. But so I changed the mindset. I started to listen to audios. I started to read books. I started to get some coaching, some mentoring, and I started to, so I knew then as I grew, then you could see the changes in what was happening in the same thing with the sunflowers, as they grew, we could see what was happening and we could see the changes.
Speaker 0 (20m 9s): And I could see that I had a foul and Gretta nickel and negative. I had read all the books, tell me what's sensitive.
Speaker 1 (20m 19s): Not normally, but that one threw you off and you just got frustrated. And that happens.
Speaker 0 (20m 25s): That happens
Speaker 1 (20m 25s): In the process. Yeah. I don't have about 12 words. And then number four,
Speaker 0 (20m 32s): Number four,
Speaker 1 (20m 34s): Phrases of the processes, then you go because of what you know, now you're on the go it's happening. You're showing you're going. You might even be teaching others. You could be talking to others about, you know, the process of what happened as we're talking to you now. But now you're on the go. You've learned and things are really starting to happen. And just like with our sunflowers, once they had gotten that in inner circle itself and helping them with the string fence and then watering them periodically giving them some chance, the sun was out, they were making it happen.
And then it showed and then boom, they were on the go. You could not have slowed them down if you wanted to know.
Speaker 0 (21m 20s): And the birds were
Speaker 1 (21m 22s): Like loving it and butterflies.
Speaker 0 (21m 25s): And by the end, by the end of this listeners, by the end of the season, I don't, I'm speaking particularly to the women who have breastfed children by the, by the end of the sunflower season, the, the heads were like wilted over like a good breastfed breast. You know, like there was nothing left. They were like, ha, I'm tired. I'm done. I've done my dash.
I've served. And now it's time to go to sleep and become the soil. And so we ground them up, mulched it up and now we get to do it.
Speaker 1 (22m 6s): You have to plant them again next season. Yes. So the lessons from a sunflower that we got from this last year's crop is number one down, but not out. And it's a law of the inner circle. Who are you surrounding yourself? Who's your team. Who's your empowering, who's empowering you, who is helping to build you up. And number two is the law of the process, understanding that we are all in a process of life
Speaker 0 (22m 35s): Until our last breath here on earth.
Speaker 1 (22m 38s): And it's not about perfection. It's about progress in the process.
Speaker 0 (22m 44s): We say that all the time to our, to the people we love and coach, it's not about perfection. It's about progress. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22m 52s): Yeah. Great. Well, that's all I had today. That was else you wanted to add on.
Speaker 0 (22m 58s): I can't wait until the next season. It's
Speaker 1 (23m 1s): Going to be an amazing sunflower seeds.
Speaker 0 (23m 3s): And we'll see if we come up with lessons from the sunflowers
Speaker 1 (23m 6s): Lessons from yeah. Alrighty. All right. Thanks everyone for joining us today on the MD and chef team podcast. And please, if you like what you've heard today, we invite you to share, subscribe and comment and let us know what you liked best about today's podcast.
Speaker 0 (23m 28s): Have a wonderful day.
Speaker 1 (23m 30s): Bye.
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