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10 Life Tips I'd tell my thirty year young self!

July 05, 2022 Dr. Isabel MD & Culinary Nutrition Expert Chef Michael Season 3 Episode 14
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10 Life Tips I'd tell my thirty year young self!
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 ⚫ And in this episode, Michael and I are talking about what we would say to our 30 year young self. Now, before we begin, I just want to say right now I am 62 years young.  And my handsome husband is 64 years young. 

We actually have just learned these things within the last three or four years.

⚫ I would agree the last three or four years, which is pretty scary.

Yeah, but since we're living to be a hundred years plus healthy. We're only a little over halfway or on halfway.

⚫ So we would love to have learned this in our 30's.

So whoever is between the ages of 30 and 60, and you haven't learned these, this is for you or share it with anybody else, you know,

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Speaker 1 (8s): You in your life, you were either going to be an employer or an entrepreneur where you're the person that hires people, or you're going to be somebody who is hired as an employee. But if you're not staying current, your business or the business you work in could be gone within a year, two years, three years because of current situations in the world, I'm there. I mean, there's so many industries that got smashed because of the pandemic, but then there's new industries that have come up because the pandemic there's always changes going on in the world. 

So if you are not staying current and just cruising along and not paying attention to what's happening, you could be sitting on the outside going, oh, gee, I can't believe all this happened to me or you're somebody who's taking advantage of the changes that are happening. 

Speaker 0 (1m 7s): Hello, I'm Dr. Isabel, Hey, thank you for joining us today. A little bit about myself. I'm a family practice doctor who has specialized in functional medicine. And if you're not familiar with functional medicine, we get to the root cause of people's unwellness. My passion because of my story. And my practice is to help women overcome anxiety and depression by optimizing their brain out so that they can live feel and be their best and to compliment our mission here. 

Speaker 1 (1m 41s): Hi, I'm chef Michael Isabel's husband and certified culinary nutrition expert at Dr. Emission. And we are the MD and chef team. I bridge the gap between nutrition and brain health. 

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Speaker 0 (2m 19s): And now let's get on with the show, hello and welcome to the MD and chef team. And in this episode, Michael and I are talking about what we would say to our 30 year old self. Now, before we begin, I just want to say right now I am 62 years young. And my handsome husband is 64 years young. And we actually have just learned these things within the last three or four years. 

Would you say, 

Speaker 1 (2m 55s): I would agree with him the last three or four years, which is pretty scary. 

Speaker 0 (3m 0s): Yeah, but since we're living to be a hundred years plus healthy. Yeah. We're only a little over halfway 

Speaker 1 (3m 8s): On halfway. 

Speaker 0 (3m 9s): Yeah. So yeah, so we would love to have learned this in our 30. So whoever is between the ages of 30 and 60, and haven't learned this, this is for you or share it with anybody else, you know, 

Speaker 1 (3m 22s): Or it could be between the ages of 30 and a hundred if you haven't yet. 

Speaker 0 (3m 27s): That's exactly right. Yes. So , I just want to say that when I prepared this material separately, I do not know what Michael's going to talk about. And he does not know what I'm going to talk about, but believe it or not, we each have five points to bring about which blows my mind. I go home. So 

Speaker 1 (3m 52s): Yeah, it should be very interesting. I got five and I got five about what we would say to our 30 year young self. Yeah. 

Speaker 0 (3m 59s): Ah, to help us avoid the mind field of life so that it's just less ugly and messy. 

Speaker 1 (4m 8s): Yeah. Tiptoe around them a little bit more. So we don't have as many body parts blown off. Yeah. 

Speaker 0 (4m 13s): Yeah. So it'll be interesting to see how we overlap and how other different things. So who wants to go first 

Speaker 1 (4m 20s): Ladies first? 

Speaker 0 (4m 21s): Oh, thank you. Chivalry is not dead. Not in our family. Okay. So number one, 

Speaker 1 (4m 29s): Come on, 

Speaker 0 (4m 30s): Come on, give it to me. Give it to me. What do you got? What do you got? Okay. So number one is for give quickly and pursue peace with others and yourself at all costs. That's one sentence. I'm going to repeat it in case you forgot it. Forgive quickly, pursue peace with others and yourself at all costs. That has been one of the hardest lessons for me. But once I have learned to forgive people quickly, when they offend me, when they hurt my heart, when I feel that the hairs on the back of my head are like up and spiky, like a porcupine, and I'm like, oh, you just upset me. 

Or you just really flipped me off. I just forgive them right away. And I know that I have to keep on forgiving people that I keep on seeing over and over again that have hurt my heart when I still feel that. Do you know what I mean? That it's you 

Speaker 1 (5m 34s): Again? 

Speaker 0 (5m 36s): Kind of like, oh, you know? 

Speaker 1 (5m 38s): Yeah. Isabel's face. 

Speaker 0 (5m 43s): Yeah. And I keep on forgiving people in my breath under, in my heart until I don't have to do that again. And I pursue peace with others because gosh, I'll tell you I've experienced true peace in my life recently in the last couple of years. And I'm telling ya, I love having peace. 

Speaker 1 (6m 7s): Peace 

Speaker 0 (6m 7s): Is beautiful. It's better than having anxiety, 

Speaker 1 (6m 12s): But you'd rather be peaceful than upset all day long. 

Speaker 0 (6m 15s): Yes, sir. Yeah, but it's work. It takes work to find peace. It's an action verb. It's an action word. It's a verb. That's an action. That's what a verb is. As an action. We're going back to, Greg's gone and have, and find peace with yourself at all costs. Give yourself mercy and grace and forgive yourself along the way, because you're just learning. And one thing that I wanted to add to this as not forgiving others is like drinking, poison, you, drinking the poison and expecting the other person to die. 

They're not going to die. They're not going to be poisoned. You're the one who's going to be poisoned by not forgiving other people. So just forgive people and just focus on their good things, you know, and learn to love them unconditionally. Even if they upset you and just press on and you don't have to allow them in your inner circle. So that's gosh, I could talk a whole 

Speaker 1 (7m 15s): Hour. I mean, this probably take any one of these points we're going to bring up and each one could be a podcast on its own, maybe in the 

Speaker 0 (7m 22s): Future. And it may be. So that's my first 

Speaker 1 (7m 25s): 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 

Speaker 0 (7m 29s): Maybe even a book, maybe even an online course. 

Speaker 1 (7m 33s): And one of our favorite pastors of the world, pastor Jack would get a crack, would just laugh at that because he's a, the word would be, he happens to do this fairly often where he comes, he goes to do his talk and he has a point. And then he that point extrapolates out. How about that? 

Speaker 0 (7m 56s): That's a good word. 

Speaker 1 (7m 56s): That point extrapolates out to where he only barely touches on it. He goes, all right, I'm going to have to come back and do part two part three, but 

Speaker 0 (8m 7s): We 

Speaker 1 (8m 8s): Love it. That's always funny, but we 

Speaker 0 (8m 9s): Love it because it's so apropos, 

Speaker 1 (8m 12s): Man. We are throwing the big words around 

Speaker 0 (8m 14s): Apropos apropos. 

Speaker 1 (8m 17s): All right. My number one Point when, what I'd say to my 30 year young self, use your twenties as a discovery time, discovering the world. And then at 30 it's time to take that discovery phase and now get going and start making your difference in the world and start getting your life on track dumb because the years 30 to 60 are going to go a heck of a lot faster than you can possibly imagine. 

You're someday going to be at 60 going, whoa, how the heck did get here? And you're going to be saying that in a way where, oh yes, I did amazing between 30 and 60 or, oh boy, I didn't get much done between 30 and 60 because it will pick up very quickly after 30. So what I really want to talk about there is yet twenties. 

If you want to play, have fun users, discovery time of the world, go see the world, go see what's going on. Learn what's happening in the world. Learn about how life works. Find yourself in the world. You know, we always hear the thing. Find yourself. What's really about finding yourself in the world. How do I relate to the world? How do I relate to different cultures around the world? You know, don't isolate yourself. It's a great time to get out there. Travel, do things, do different careers, do different jobs. 

If you want to go to uni, go to uni, just do lots of you 

Speaker 0 (9m 57s): Can do the university of life 

Speaker 1 (9m 59s): Or the university of life or 

Speaker 0 (10m 1s): Teacher or 

Speaker 1 (10m 1s): Doing both just to do a lot of things in your twenties to get out there. And I call it a discovery phase where you're discovering, how does life work? Because for most people up until the age of 18, they're under the roof of their parents now. Yes. Some leave earlier than that. But pretty much beyond that, then now you've got like the next 10 years or so to go, okay, well what's the, what's the rest of the world. Like it's a great time. 

However, don't let that linger in my opinion, way beyond your thirties because now, okay. I've found my place. I've seen what's going on. Let's get down to it. Let's start thinking about how do I fit in all this and start making it happen for your life because 30 to 60 is going to go very, very quickly. That's what I have found. 

Speaker 0 (10m 53s): Oh yeah, me too. I'm right there with you, buddy. Yeah. Yeah. 

Speaker 1 (10m 56s): All right. What's your second. 

Speaker 0 (10m 57s): Okay. So my second one is everything that happens to you is for you it's to prepare you for your next best life. I really wish I would have learn this when I was 30, because I always felt like I was a victim. Like stuff was always happening to me. But one thing, one experience I do remember that really helped me learn from this is my education, my medical school education, my pre-med med ed educational. 

Look I've wanted to be a medical doctor since I was five years old. That's just the truth. And my family was not in a position to help me financially with medical training at all. And so I had to source it out. And one thing that I learned that as things was happening to me is I learned to be resourceful. And I learned to find the money I li I mean, it was all student loans, which by the grace of God are all paid off, but I learned to be resourceful. 

There was, there was a time in my life where I realized this is happening for me and I'm going to use it to my benefit. And the benefit was, I'm going to learn to become resourceful early. 

Speaker 1 (12m 19s): And you were also working three different jobs while going to school at pre-med. 

Speaker 0 (12m 23s): Yeah. Crazy. 

Speaker 1 (12m 24s): So yes, you are very resourceful to make things happen. 

Speaker 0 (12m 29s): So everything that happens to you, you gotta get this tattooed in your brain so that you're not a victim. You're victorious in everything in your life is everything that happens to you is for you to prepare you for your next best life. Number two, 

Speaker 1 (12m 49s): Number two for me is self-improvement sooner than later. Oh 

Speaker 0 (12m 55s): Yeah. 

Speaker 1 (12m 56s): The concept of books, audios, podcasts, conferences, mentorship, all those things where I am becoming a better human being for this world, a better human being for interacting with people, communicating, connecting, whether it's it's business school, employ relational, everything in the world. I didn't hear about this concept until my late forties, all of a sudden, and not all of a sudden, but my beautiful wife, Isabel starts talking to me about this program. 

She discovered about books and CDs and, and listen, mentorship and conferences. And I was like, huh, what? Ah, I don't know about that. I mean, I all, I, up until that point, yes, I had done my schooling as I needed to become an executive chef or culinary chef. And yes, I was up on my Scheffing skills and I kind of furthered my education in that area. But other than that, all I read was a sports page and the comics, I was not actually working on myself. 

I was working within my career, but I wasn't working on myself. And I can tell you now, when I look back at my career as a, as an executive chef in private country clubs and hotels and restaurants and running the show for many, many organizations that I could have done it a thousand times better. If I would have been developing myself and becoming a better me leading people, I was still in that management phase and telling people what to do. 

And I was leading with my culinary skills skills, but not leading with my skills as a human being and being the chef, Michael, that I could be at the time. So looking back on that, I would say for anybody right now, yep. Your discovery phase in your twenties, but you know, sooner than later, start getting into cell phone improvement where you are learning to become the best version of yourself for the world and for what you can put out there and in your career, whatever that may be, you are going to move along so much quicker than everybody else because 95% of the world is not on a self-improvement program. 

So if you are, you are going to move to the top of whatever you're doing very, very quickly. 

Speaker 0 (15m 38s): And you and I both agree well said, babe, you and I both agree that we're educating ourselves until our last breath 

Speaker 1 (15m 44s): Forever. Yeah. Forever. Oh, you 

Speaker 0 (15m 46s): Love that word. Don't you forever. 

Speaker 1 (15m 49s): Once you stop learning, you're dead in the water. Yeah. You're just, you know, once you stop learning, you're just sitting there hanging out 

Speaker 0 (15m 58s): And you and I pretty much have about four books on the go at one time. Would you agree? Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Four books. Yeah. That's not to mention. That's not a address. The podcast we listened to and 

Speaker 1 (16m 14s): The mentorship, 

Speaker 0 (16m 15s): The mentorship 

Speaker 1 (16m 15s): Conferences, 

Speaker 0 (16m 16s): The mentoring, our, our coaching that we get just to become our best. Because when we become our best, we can help other people. We can feed. We can pour into others, but if you're empty, you can't pour into other people. 

Speaker 1 (16m 29s): You got to fill yourself up, fill your known self-improvement tank. All right, that's it. So number three for you, my dear 

Speaker 0 (16m 39s): Number three is, excuse me, compare yourself to yourself and not other people that is so important. I find myself looking at all of my mentors in social media doctors, doing amazing things, other people that are doing amazing things that I want to be doing. I want to be reaching the masses to encourage and empower them to become a better version and to live a healthier life. 

My gosh, I want to do that, but that's not me. So what I have learned is not to compare myself to them, compare myself to me and where do I want to go? And how do I go about doing that? Well, number one, realizing when I compare myself to other people, I will get anxious. I'll feel like I'm behind. And that's not a good story to be telling yourself over and over again. Because when you feel behind you get demoralized, you get anxious and depressed and you don't put press on. 

So I don't compare myself to other people. I compare myself to who I want to become. How does that happen? One by looking back at who I was just a year ago, I mean, you and I were talking about it over coffee today. Wow. We've come a long way in just that year and just realizing, wow, we've really come a long way. And that's a big word in our family. 

Speaker 1 (18m 11s): Yeah. 

Speaker 0 (18m 12s): And then compare yourself to where you've been 10 years ago and 20 years ago and realize all the obstacles you've overcome and how strong in yourself, what, what strengths, what characteristics have been built up in you? For me, I've learned to have more mercy on people. I have so much more patience with people. Patience is huge. I've learned to love people unconditionally. 

Oh my gosh, that was not me. A couple of years ago. I was very critical of other people. So those are really good things if I want to help and This. So it's just your journey. So compare yourself to other people, look back to where you were a year ago, 10 years ago, 20 years ago, and make sure you are growing and moving forward and up. You gotta be setting goals. If you're going to become a better person, a better you, and why you're doing that. 

If you don't have cheerleaders in your corner, then you need to learn to become your own best cheerleader until you do have the people in your corner, cheerleading you on. Luckily I have you been, and I've got our daughters that are cheerleading us on, plus our mentor or coach. So that's, that's number three, compare yourself to yourself and not others. 

Speaker 1 (19m 36s): That's a very good, and 

Speaker 0 (19m 37s): That will decrease a lot of anxiety. 

Speaker 1 (19m 41s): My number three is stay current. And what I mean by that is, as we've all seen, things has changed so quickly within, you know, and we're just coming out of this time where the pandemic of the world is happening. We've probably all seen businesses have changed. What's current has changed and, and you can look at technology at one point it was CD, okay, CDs, all of a sudden took over the marketplace. 

And then all of a sudden will, they don't need to make cars with CD players in them anymore. 

Speaker 0 (20m 20s): And we have so many 

Speaker 1 (20m 23s): Albums and all this stuff, but what I'm saying is you, in your life, you were either going to be an employer or an entrepreneur where you're the person that hires people, or you're going to be somebody who is hired as an employee. But if you're not staying current, your business or the business you work in could be gone within a year, two years, three years because of current situations in the world, I'm there. I mean, there's so many industries that got smashed because of the pandemic, but then there's new industries that have come up because of the pandemic. 

There's always changes going on in the world. So if you are not staying current and just cruising along and not paying attention to what's happening, 

Speaker 0 (21m 14s): Calling all women, are you feeling depressed, anxious, lacking in energy, having problems sleeping all night long, waking up with brain fog, or maybe even hopelessness. And you know that there is a better you that wants to come out. Hello, it's me, Dr. Isabel. And wow. If any of this sounds like you, I get you. I have been in this place and I really wish someone who really knew what I was going through would have been there to help me through to the other side of that deep dark place. 

That's why I started the shame-free anxiety and depression community for women only. It's a free and private Facebook group. Would you like weekly coaching to help you become your best self? And how about being inspired and encouraged by other women in the community? We now know that we grow better in community and not alone. The link is in the podcast description, or you can search in Facebook for the shame-free anxiety and depression community for women it's free, it's private and it's safe. 

I hope to see you there soon. And now back to the podcast, 

Speaker 1 (22m 41s): You could be sitting on the outside going, oh, gee, I can't believe all this happened to me or your somebody who's taking advantage of the changes that are happening. And it reminds me of a book and I forget the author. And it's, it's out there though. The book is called, who moved my cheese? Oh yeah. I forget the author. I apologize for that. But who moved? My cheese is an amazing book. Small little book talks about a couple of mice that try and find the cheese. 

And the interesting concept is the cheese is always moving. But one per at one mouse all ends up beating rotten cheese because he's kind of watching where the cheese is going. And the other one is always eating fresh new cheese that tastes great. And it's wonderful because he's alert and seeing where things are happening and where it's going. 

Speaker 0 (23m 33s): Good point. 

Speaker 1 (23m 34s): So my point is, no matter what we're doing, whether we are the business owner, whether we are the entrepreneur or whether we're the employee working within that company for somebody, we need to stay current, see what's going on because we can be in the outside looking in very quickly with our hands up in the air saying, oh, I don't know what happened. Well, it just, the world just moved on right on past you. And there you sit. 

Speaker 0 (24m 1s): Very good point. Stay current, 

Speaker 1 (24m 3s): Stay current. 

Speaker 0 (24m 6s): Oh my gosh. If you and I weren't current right now, we'd be lost. 

Speaker 1 (24m 9s): We're staying current in our sixties because we've been watching what's going on in the world. And you know, I'm not going to get in all details about that, but we've had to stay current with where it's all heading. What's happening. What's happened over the last five years. Last two years over the last 12 months what's going on. 

Speaker 0 (24m 27s): Exactly. Very good. 

Speaker 1 (24m 29s): What's your number for, 

Speaker 0 (24m 30s): It's funny how you and I aren't overlapping at all bed. Not 

Speaker 1 (24m 33s): Yet, but we'll see. 

Speaker 0 (24m 35s): Okay. Number four is when you make a mistake, I encourage you to not beat yourself up. Please. Don't beat yourself up rather stop and evaluate and learn from it because you know what, if you don't learn from it, you will continue to go around that mountain and keep on doing RA, walking up that mountain until you figure it out. 

Another way of putting it as if you keep on making the same mistake, you will keep on making that mistake until you learn from it. And then you move on. And when you make a mistake, don't do what I used to do. And that is just sorry. Start saying I'm such an idiot. I can't believe I did that again. You know why? Because when you start talking to yourself negatively, that increases these hormones, these negative hormones that bring about stress. And whenever you're stressed out, it's really hard to learn. 

It's really hard to learn the bottom line, learn the lesson from that. However, when you make a mistake and you go, oh, okay. Hmm, that didn't feel too good. I'm going to figure out what I need to learn from this. When you start having that approach, that's the positive highway approach or the parasympathetic nervous system approach, and then happy hormones are released. And guess what? When happy hormones are released, you're able to learn a lot easier so that you don't make that mistake over and over again. 

So when you make a mistake, you have a choice. You can either take the negative highway or the positive highway, the negative highway, I'm promise you. We'll keep you look making that mistake over and over again. Whereas if you take the positive highway, you'll probably only have to make that mistake once, maybe twice, because you learn from that because your body's receptive. It's able to absorb the lesson. 

Speaker 1 (26m 39s): Very good. I love that. 

Speaker 0 (26m 43s): And I have to keep on learning this over and over again because I keep on making mistakes. 

Speaker 1 (26m 47s): I know it reminds me of a fantastic book by one of our mentors, John C. Maxwell. Yes. Sometimes you win. Sometimes you'll learn. 

Speaker 0 (26m 56s): Yes. And another book is failing for 

Speaker 1 (26m 59s): Failing forward. Oh, that was one of the first books that I was reading when I got into self improvement, learning about failing forward because I just saw failing as, oh, I'm a failure. Yeah. I needed to get beyond that concept in my head, 

Speaker 0 (27m 15s): But you have to fail to win. 

Speaker 1 (27m 17s): That's the way it works. 

Speaker 0 (27m 18s): And the easiest example is a kid learning to walk. I mean, when Nicki or Haley were learning how to walk and they'd get from the crawling position to holding onto the, to the, to the sofa. And then they started walking and they'd fall. We didn't say don't even bother kid. You'll never learn to walk. Did we? No, no. We said, come on. You can do it. And that's it. 

Speaker 1 (27m 41s): Even when they were kind of hobbling along and crash and burn and face plant into the stones and God and scratches and stitches would come on, go again, come on. 

Speaker 0 (27m 53s): And we need to do that to ourselves because look, they're walking now and they're walking well. 

Speaker 1 (27m 59s): Yeah, 

Speaker 0 (27m 60s): They're doing great. 

Speaker 1 (28m 2s): I, well, my number four is, learn financial wisdom. 

Speaker 0 (28m 8s): Yes. 

Speaker 1 (28m 9s): See, 

Speaker 0 (28m 11s): Oh my gosh. 

Speaker 1 (28m 12s): Well, financial wisdom is not taught in school. Yes. You could go to a business school, those types of things. When I'm talking about financial wisdom out in the real world where you are in it, you it's your money. It's for real, because you can learn it theoretically, but that's not emotional because financial wisdom has an emotional attached to it, attachment to it. 

When you're out in the real world and you are making money and you want to invest money, you want to save money. You want to learn how to set yourself up later on. There's an emotional attachment. Yes. You need to learn the theoretical part. But the part that a lot of people miss is the emotional attachment. Can I handle investments that like right now we're in the world, we're in, what's called this bear market where the stocks are just getting smashed. 

And a lot of people are selling out because, ah, you know, but the savvy investors are buying in because, oh, I'm going to buy low and sell high. Of course you've heard that, but understand that there's an emotional attachment to, to financial wisdom. And the only way you're going to learn that is to actually be in the game. You can sit on the sideline, you can sit in the stadium. We're all, we all have a ticket to the stadium to sit in the stadium of life. 

And I'm just, I'm talking here around the financial aspect. We've all got a ticket to sit in the stadium of finances and make money. But now to actually get in the game, emotional attachment comes to it like, well, am I okay with that? You know, okay. Am I going to put it all into savings? Oh, if I put something into investments, what's going to happen, you know? And can I handle it? What if it doesn't work this time? Will I, you know, there's many stories of so many investing into something and it didn't work, then they never do it again. 

Well, there's an emotional attachment to all of that. So financial wisdom learning about financial wisdom. Yes. Learning about the theoretical side. Excuse me. Learning about taxation. I mean, I didn't get any of the taxation courses in any of my schooling and I don't think you got any of the taxation 

Speaker 0 (30m 45s): Training, 

Speaker 1 (30m 46s): Medical training for 12 years. 

Speaker 0 (30m 48s): They never taught me what to do with my money. 

Speaker 1 (30m 50s): Money. Yeah. So 

Speaker 0 (30m 52s): Spend 

Speaker 1 (30m 52s): It from, and also I can tell you, one of my mistakes is when we were making money, I just gave up the power to the accountants and the lawyers. Yes. They're amazing. Yes, they do a great job. But as Robert Kiyosaki says this great financial wisdom mentor out there says, mind your own business. I just gave him all the stuff and let them run with it. And they minded their business. 

They didn't mind my business. And as time went on, I found out, wait a second, here. That's not working for us. You know, you were actually working for yourselves. I need you to work for us. And I saw, I needed to educate myself about what is going on here. How does this all work? Unfortunately, that didn't happen until later in life. But this is what I would tell myself, probably starting at 18. Yes, but at least by 30 are gaining financial wisdom and then get into the game. 

Just, it can be in small amounts, but to understand emotionally, how am I going to handle this financial game of, of life? 

Speaker 0 (32m 6s): I have one book that you would recommend to everybody to start with 

Speaker 1 (32m 10s): One book. Ooh, I would probably say Tony Robbins has some amazing financial books that he's just put out that it's not about his finances, but it's about him interviewing the rich, the wealthy, very wealthy around the world who have been in the game their whole life. They weren't rich to start, but they build up wealth and they've learned the game of life. I think the last one is called the path. And there was another one that those are very, very good because they actually talk about everything from protecting your wealth. 

Once you make it, which is another important part, but the taxation side of it and all those different things. So I would check those books out a couple books by Tony Robbins, where he interviews the players of the world who were in the game about how to their men, men, and women throughout the world who talk about how to protect it, make it, protect it and grow it. Yeah. Very important. 

Speaker 0 (33m 11s): And one book that I would recommend is to help you understand about financial wealth is rich dad, poor dad by Robert Kiyosaki. And ladies, one thing I emphasize here is, do not expect your husband or your partner or your significant other to handle everything you should be in the game. Also, Michael and I, every month, alternate back and forth our finances where I'm in charge of investing and doing the finances for the month. 

And then he, we alternate back and forth so that we feel comfortable so that we're, we're conversational about it. 

Speaker 1 (33m 53s): Yeah. Great point. Both players of the relationship should be involved in the financial wisdom side. Not just one because that could cause a major dependence problem. 

Speaker 0 (34m 4s): Oh, and also anxiety. Yes. Yeah. And we want to avoid anxiety. That's what we're all about. Right, right. On. Yeah. Brain health leads to good mental health dealing with life. Do I get to do number five? Is 

Speaker 1 (34m 15s): That number five? 

Speaker 0 (34m 16s): I'm next? Yeah. Okay. Gosh, we have separate different things on this Israelis. No, I think, I think we're pretty separate. Yeah. Okay. So mine, my last one today is for the believers for people that believe in God. So if that's not you, then you know what? You can pull down the shades, go get a cup of tea or whatever you want, but I'm going to be talking about God and how God is for you and not against you. 

And that has taken me a long time to learn. And I just want to share with you and give you hope about that statement. You see, he wants you to understand, and this is what I've understood finally, in the last couple of years that you are his masterpiece and he created you to do good. He's got great plans for you to do, and he wants you to accomplish them. 

And the highest call for a child of God is to enjoy life and God at the same time, not to be afraid of God. I mean, look, I was raised to be afraid of God and I've always been afraid of God, but now I just love God. And I know that he is my constant. I was just talking to my mom. Who's 97 years, young living independently in her fifth floor cottage in America apartment. And I was talking to mommy and look, I'll be honest with you. 

She's getting close to going to heaven, you know? And, and she's okay with that, but she's doing really good. She's very strong. And I'm like, mommy, do you realize that your best day is the day you die and go to heaven? She goes, yeah, I know. I know. So she like excited about this and she goes, but I don't want to have any pain. And I go, I don't think God's going to let you experience pain because he loves you. And I go, mom, you know, God's for you. And she goes, I know. And he's my constant companion. 

So that just, you know, cause her and I grew up in the same type of thinking, you know, we were afraid of God, but not anymore. We know that God's for us. And I just went up plant this seed in your heart that you have a purpose. You're not, you're not an accident. You were born with a purpose and it's your job to seek father God to find what that purpose is. And your purpose changes throughout your life. 

You have seasons for this purpose. And like, for instance, for me, I had a season of becoming a doctor. I became a doctor. Then I had a season of becoming a wife that didn't, you know, beat my husband up with negative words and emotional yelling and all that stuff. Now I feel like I'm a lot better wife and a thank you. I didn't pay him to say that. And then the next season was becoming a mom. You know, I didn't, I mean, I had to learn how to become a mom that no, I didn't get the manual. 

And now I'm learning how to be a mom of adult women, you know? Yeah. It is another season. And then now I'm becoming not only am I becoming a mom of adult women in this world, but I'm also becoming I'm in a season where I'm becoming a doctor, changing the culture in medicine, in this world about mental health, from my scary experience that happened with anxiety and depression. 

Look, you know, just briefly for those of you who don't know this, but when I was 53 years old and we have just started doctor on a mission, I try to take my life twice in three days. And yes, it was ugly. Yes, it was messy. And it was very, very scary for both of us and also for our daughters. And that was an ugly time. But now I'm way over on the other side and you and I both are on the other side and, and we're making that mess into the message to give people hope, to deal with anxiety and depression. 

Well, I just want to say that while I was going through that season of anxiety and depression, I didn't want to do it, but I knew. And I learned that God was with me and for me and loved me. And he was going to help make this a positive thing. Not only for you and I bay, but our kids and the world. Yeah. And now I I've learned the next part of my purpose is helping the world over common, be free of anxiety and depression. 

So if you don't know your purpose, I just want to let you know, if you don't know your purpose in life, you're going to feel useless and worthless and frustrated. And I encourage you to find out what your purpose is. You're not going to figure it out right away and realize you've got a lot of purposes. You've got a lot of different seasons to fulfill your purposes. And I encourage you to find what your purpose is for this season, 

Speaker 1 (39m 35s): For the season, 

Speaker 0 (39m 36s): For the season and start flowing. And it, because I'm telling you, when you are flowing in your season, knowing that you're doing your best and God's helping you with his love, I'm telling you the sky's the limit. 

Speaker 1 (39m 53s): Yeah. 

Speaker 0 (39m 53s): So remember God is for you. Not against you. 

Speaker 1 (39m 59s): Excellent. 

Speaker 0 (39m 60s): That was number five. And that's a wrap for me now what's your number five. 

Speaker 1 (40m 5s): Hi, number five, kind of similar, just a little different is learn to love. People, learn to love people and stay humble and be non judgemental. In my early years, for many years, I was the type of person who was very satirical. And what I mean by that was I'd see somebody. 

And I had to look at that person, you know, and kind of laugh, you know, ha you know, and if somebody was having comments about other people I join and you know, the murmuring and complaining club, you know, where people are always, you know, talking about people and all this and that making jokes and, oh, I'm just joking. Oh, it's just funny. And it's prideful. It's putting others down, trying to make yourself look better by putting others down, judgmental, judgmental about things. 

When somebody did something, they all look at them. You know, when I had my own problems, my own issues. And so I'm going to keep this one short and sweet, but really something I would tell myself back when I'm 30 and hopefully way younger than that, 

Speaker 0 (41m 30s): Very good 

Speaker 1 (41m 31s): Is to learn to love people. You don't know where they're at in their life. You don't know what's going on. Even when people are mean to you, they cut you off in traffic. They give you the so-called finger, or maybe you're at some store and they're being ran or in your face. And, or they're not even nice. Or the clerk at the store is just like, what do you want? You don't know what has happened in their life. 

You have no idea. Oh, I learned to love. People learn to be a light to people, learn to be maybe the one that they haven't had a smile. They haven't had anything nice happen to them for a long time. Just smile, just smile and learn to love people. Drop your pride, stay humble and be non judgemental. Those are a base that I had to learn. 

Become a better Michael in this world. 

Speaker 0 (42m 35s): And a beautiful Michael, you are thanks. And becoming a better one every day. Yeah. 

Speaker 1 (42m 41s): Well, amazing. 10 points, no idea what each other was going to talk about and we didn't overlap. We didn't overlap. Well, let's wrap it up. Let's head on out of here. This has been the MD and chef Joe. 

Speaker 2 (43m 4s): Hello, chef Michael here. If you enjoy today's episode, we would love it. If you subscribe to the podcast and left us a review.