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Who's Winning the "Slight Edge" of Life?

January 17, 2022 Dr. Isabel MD & Culinary Nutrition Expert Chef Michael Season 3 Episode 1
MD and Chef Team - The Show!
Who's Winning the "Slight Edge" of Life?
Show Notes Transcript

➥ Today we're going to be talking about a concept called the slight edge. Now where this come from is a book by a gentleman name of Jeff Olson, a book called the slight edge, an amazing book. I have read this book at least four times, and I just love, love, love the concepts in this book because it's so helps me to continue to move through life in a positive way and understanding how sometimes we could fail or those having success can drop off.

✅  You wonder, well, how did they fail? Or how did people all of a sudden be at the bottom and then boom, things are going great. What's the processes. And what's our steps for that to happen.  And continue happening in the positive forward and up directly.

The overlying concept is life is not a straight line. Our physical health, our mental health, everything we're doing in life is not a straight line. We are either on a daily basis dropping off the slight edge, meaning that maybe that day didn't go so good or things aren't happening the way we want it to.

✅  Or they've gotten better that day.  And we have done the things we needed to do. We have done the little daily disciplines we want to do that have gotten us better that day, as far as mentally and physically, but understanding that it's not the big booms of life.

Yes. There's some big booms in life that happened, but the longterm success is dependent on this, the little daily mundane habits. The little daily disciplines, we do day upon day upon day.

And that's like compounding interest. They compound, and we will have a line of either success long-term going upward, or we can possibly see a line of falling off, which would be the opposite of success where, it's kind of the ambulance at the bottom of the cliff. We're falling off the edge, shall I say?  💖

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Speaker 0 (0s): Coming up on this episode of the MD and chef team show 

Speaker 1 (8s): Since 2022, but you set up those yearly goals and get those things going. What happens a lot of times is with succeeding in the slight edge is those habits are just things we need to do. And it's not easy. We have to make those decisions to say, okay, I'm going to do this because I know I need to, 

Speaker 0 (35s): Like, for instance, what we just did three o'clock in the afternoon. Welcome to the show from DMD Jeff team. I'm Dr. Isabel medical doctor here at the MD and chef team. 

Speaker 1 (51s): I'm chef Michael Coleman nutrition expert. I'm the chef part of the kids. 

Speaker 0 (55s): And what are we going to talk about bed? Now? I can see that cause he's my husband. 

Speaker 1 (1m 0s): We'll be talking about marriage relationships, parenting intimacy. Talk about mindsets of success, overcoming depression, anxiety. I'll be getting into functional nutrition, recipes and tips from the kitchen. And we're going to both get into how to live a long, healthy, vibrant life. 

Speaker 0 (1m 18s): Yes, I love it. Our mission is to help you prevent and reverse the disease and give you both in the process. Oh yeah. We like to have, 

Speaker 1 (1m 35s): And welcome to episode one of season three of the MD and chef team. This is certified culinary nutrition expert, chef Michael here. And I am joined with my beautiful life 

Speaker 0 (1m 49s): MI Dr. Isabel, that's me, honey. Thank you so much. Great to have you here. I love being here with you. I love doing life with you, babe. Thank you. 

Speaker 1 (2m 0s): Isn't this amazing we're into season three of the MD and chef team. 

Speaker 0 (2m 5s): It is amazing. You and I were walking, going for a coffee and we were thinking, wow, season three, the first one we ever did was back in March, just after New Zealand went into lockdown in March 

Speaker 1 (2m 21s): 20, 20, 20, 20, March 20, 20, 19, 20, 19, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20 20. 

Speaker 0 (2m 30s): Yeah, 

Speaker 1 (2m 31s): No, I know. It's like, okay. Wow. When did all this stuff hit? And bam. Yeah. And that was for here and here we are as the new year we're in the January. And for those who were down under New Zealand, Australia, you kind of get it where, okay, we're actually kind of coming out of the holidays. Cause down under it is summertime. Kids are out of school. It's going to the beach, cooking on the fun family, warmth, all that kind of summary stuff and taking weeks off at a time. 

As we found out here in New Zealand that yeah, most people are getting back into the swing of work again, or kind of trying to, shall I say, and there are still those that are off on holidays and school, doesn't start for another two or three weeks here in New Zealand. I'm sure it's about the same in Australia, but no matter where you are in the world, we are here to get the season kicked off. 

Speaker 0 (3m 32s): I love what you're going to be talking about today. It's so important to us to help us get our mind right. For the new year and being expected of amazing things. However, we gotta do our part, right? Oh, we do. Yes we do. We gotta do our part. 

Speaker 1 (3m 51s): Oh, I got some work to do 

Speaker 0 (3m 52s): Well. We know that mentally and physically always have to do work 

Speaker 1 (3m 58s): Well 

Speaker 0 (3m 58s): Today, but correct work. Yes. 

Speaker 1 (4m 1s): The correct work. Yes. Well, today we're going to be talking about a concept called the slight edge. Now where this come from is a book by a gentleman name of Jeff Olson, a book called the slight edge, an amazing book. I have read this thing at least four times, read this book at least four times. And I know you've read it a bunch of times, but I just love, love, love the concepts in this book because it's so helps me to continue to move through life in a positive way and just understanding how sometimes we could fail or those having success can drop off. 

And all of a sudden, you wonder, well, how did they fail? Or how did people all of a sudden be at the bottom and then boom, things are going great. What's the processes. And what's our steps for that to happen 

Speaker 0 (4m 52s): And continue happening in the positive forward and up directly. 

Speaker 1 (4m 56s): Yes. And that's it because the slight edge of life and, and the overlying concept as we get into this, but the overlying concept is life is not a straight line. Well, our physical health, our mental health, everything we're doing in life is not a straight line. We are either on a daily basis kind of dropping off. And, and I won't say it in a negative way, but just kind of dropping off the slight edge, meaning that maybe that day didn't go so good or things aren't happening the way we want it to, or they've gotten better that day. 

And we have done the things we needed to do. We have done the little daily disciplines we want to do that have gotten us better as far as mentally and physically, but understanding that it's not the big booms of life. Yes. There's some big booms in life that happened, but the longterm success is dependent on this, the little daily mundane habits and things. We do a little daily disciplines. We do day upon day upon day. 

And that's like compounding interests. They compound, and we will have a line of either success long-term going upward, or we can possibly see a line of falling off, which would be the opposite of success where, you know, it's kind of the ambulance at the end of the cliff type thing. We're falling off the edge, shall I say? Yes. And we, 

Speaker 0 (6m 34s): We had, and we do see a lot of people falling off the edge because of them doing the negative daily habits of, 

Speaker 1 (6m 43s): Yeah. I mean, we had just as a great example, remember what happened to us at church about a month or maybe six weeks ago, we saw a friend who we hadn't seen for probably fought. What would you say five years? It was actually 

Speaker 0 (6m 59s): 10, 10 

Speaker 1 (7m 0s): Years. 10 years. Yeah. A friend we hadn't seen for 10 years happened to come to our church that day, who hadn't seen him and his wife for about 10 years. And, you know, have you ever had that experience where you see someone you haven't seen them for a while? And usually one of two things happens. You'll have that look at them and go like, wow, you look amazing. That's kind of the one you want. Right. Yeah. 

And the other one is, oh, like in this one you don't say, but you kind of have that like look in your face and you make sure you try to hide it if you can. But you get that look like, 

Speaker 0 (7m 44s): Ooh, wow, you don't look 

Speaker 1 (7m 46s): So bad happened to you. Oh my gosh. You've age. Or you look like you kind of, Ooh, things haven't gone well. 

Speaker 0 (7m 55s): And 

Speaker 1 (7m 56s): So that's what happened to us with this person we saw after 10 years and oh my gosh, it was, it was very sad. And so we had to just have a nice conversation, but, you know, yeah. So it was kind of, it was that slight edge where that didn't happen to that person in one day, it didn't happen in a week. It didn't happen in a month. It didn't even happen in a year, but it was a slight edge of the little daily decisions repeated consistently over time that gave them a slight edge of succeeding physically and mentally, or falling off the slight edge of life where things are going downward, shall I say? 

Speaker 0 (8m 45s): Right. And for exactly that, and for me being a medical doctor, practicing functional medicine and helping people like become their best, you know, and you gotta be healthy in order to live your best life. Life's way too hard, not being healthy. And this person was definitely not healthy. And I'm like, oh my gosh, what a setup for all his Hymers or dementia or heart attack or stroke, or type two diabetes impotence. 

I mean, all this stuff that I know that I'm like, oh, please listen to this podcast. Please listen to the slight edge because the key is that person can actually turn the corner. You can turn it around, you can turn things around. And that's what I want to emphasize here and give hope to our listeners is you can, it is never too late, right? 

Speaker 1 (9m 40s): It's about prevention and reversal of all those things you talked about mentioned just now, right? Cause they can be reversed right through the lifestyle choices that got you in that position. So if they got you there, we can reverse them and change those choices. Now just us I'll use us as an example. When you say over the last few weeks, there has been in our slide age of life. 

Yeah. Because it's been holiday. Oh yeah. And we've done a pretty good job, keeping ourself going and getting a lot of walking in and staying hydrated and possibly hydrated in some different ways than we normally do and ate some foods that we don't normally eat. I would you say the slight edge over the last two weeks or so? Over the holiday that we took off with a slight edge of gone up as far as mentally and physically, or kind of dropped off. 

Speaker 0 (10m 44s): Oh, dropped off for sure. And there comes a point where we're like, okay, time to time to buckle up, get back on track. Cause I don't like the way I'm thinking or feeling or looking. 

Speaker 1 (10m 57s): Yeah. So I mean, you know, we got to get to a point where the slight edge had to slightly change and we had to say a K yes. We'll think we'll start to get this slope, this slight edge going back up again. And, but that's okay. You know, you can, it doesn't mean that just because you had some time where yeah. You just had a little more play, shall I say? Right. And that's okay. Because each day is just a little blip on the slight edge. 

Now it's just, you want to make sure that it doesn't go too long because here's what can happen. And this is what I have found. Why people, a lot of times don't succeed with those yearly goals. You know, this is the time of year where we set up those goals for 2022 or the new year. Of course this is 2022, but you set up those goals and get those things going. What happens a lot of times is with succeeding in the slight edge is those habits are just things we need to do. 

And it's not easy. We have to make those decisions to say, okay, I'm going to do this because I know I need to, 

Speaker 0 (12m 18s): Like for instance, what we just did three o'clock in the afternoon. And normally we do our exercise, our workout earlier in the day, it's three o'clock in the afternoon and we still did our upper arms. You know, we still did the resistance. Was it easy? No. Was it hard? Yes. Did I want to do it? No, but I want the end result. So yeah, it's definitely not easy, but we want the results. 

Speaker 1 (12m 47s): Right. And I, today I wanted to make sure my slight edge was going up. That me too. 

Speaker 0 (12m 53s): I want to go up with you too. 

Speaker 1 (12m 57s): Yeah. We're going up together. It was a slight edge up day 

Speaker 0 (13m 1s): To day with 

Speaker 1 (13m 3s): Our nutritional habits and everything else. We're doing lifestyle wise. But the other side of it is would it have been easy? And this is the easy to say, nah, not today. You know, it's easy to drop off. We went out, we had it, we went out for a walk. We, we had a coffee at a local cafe and we had a chat. We had a catch up, there was a lot going on and we needed to talk about, but we wanted to get out for a walk for about an hour. And I saw burgers and fries and all kinds of other food. 

And I thought, Ooh, wow, that looks good. Would it have been easy to order a burger, burger and fries and you know, maybe some kind of alcoholic drink and not work out the day. Yeah. Yeah. It would have been easy to do that. 

Speaker 0 (13m 51s): I would have felt guilty doing that, you know? Cause we've got so much we want to do and we wanted to get back up on the slide X, but yes, it would have been easy. Yeah. 

Speaker 1 (13m 59s): It's not to say we've never done it. It's just today was a upward, slight edge day. The decision to make. And that's just not easy. It would have been easy to say, oh, I don't feel like working out today. Right. The problem is when we keep making that easy decisions of the not doing the things day upon day upon day, it actually gets easier and easier to make those decisions to say, nah, I don't think so, Nat. 

I don't think so. And it becomes harder day upon day to say, well, I need to do this. I need to do this. Have you ever find, you know, when we, when we took those few weeks off that kind of first day back of right on spot on nutritional eating and hydration and sleeping well and working out was a kind of like, Ooh, this, okay. I got to make these decisions. It wasn't an easy decision. It's like, okay, today away we got 

Speaker 0 (14m 59s): Today is that oh really? How about tomorrow? Yeah. 

Speaker 1 (15m 6s): So what I want to do is just give a few action steps. I want to give a few, I guess you could call these slight edge habits, slide as decisions that we can make on a daily basis to help us to understand how we can action this and day upon day, we can have our slight edge going upward. Number one is just show up, show up for yourself. This is for you for yourself. Just show up and make a decision yet today I'm going to show up and I'm going to make good daily decisions for me today 

Speaker 0 (15m 45s): And be for yourself. Not against yourself. Yes. Yeah, yeah. 

Speaker 1 (15m 50s): And show up, do what you did. Yeah. I'm here today and I'm going to make good decisions. And then the second thing is to show up consistently. Now you're showing up, don't do it one day and then take six days off. And then maybe another day and you know, very, very inconsistently because the consistency, if you're inconsistent, it's not going to work. Gotta be up down, up, down, and it'll be all over the show. And usually that just kind of falls off. So when you show up, be consistent about showing up. 

Speaker 0 (16m 22s): Amen. You're with me. I'm so with you. Yeah, because you and I are pretty good at that. Like Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday. We're very consistent. But then by 6:00 PM, Saturday until Monday morning at eight, 8:00 AM where not consistent. We're like off we've, we've decided, Nope. We're not going to be, we're not going to be consistent. We're just going to eat whatever we want to do, eat, drink, whatever we want to drink to moderation. 

Of course. And you know, and not exercise as much as we normally do. I mean, 

Speaker 1 (16m 58s): You know, us going out and doing whatever we want, we're still gluten free, dairy free cars or gluten free dairy, free sugar free here at the MD and chef team and doctor on emission. How well 

Speaker 0 (17m 8s): We keep our alcohol intake to only four drinks a week, you know? And w yeah. So it's not like we go way off, but we do need to. Yeah. 

Speaker 1 (17m 19s): So we'd like for 36 hours mentally and physically just relax and chill and enjoy life and all that kind of good stuff. Cool. 

Speaker 0 (17m 30s): Not that we don't enjoy every day while we're being consistent. Yes. Very true. But you know, we're just having a little extra, more fun. Yeah. 

Speaker 1 (17m 38s): Well, it's just not as much of a regimen of decisions we need to make on those days. It's kind of like, yeah, whatever I will sleep in, we won't sleep in. We'll go here and now we won't, we'll go over there. Oh, what's the weather today. Yeah. That type of stuff. But they're in the wig. Yep. We have decisions. We need to make them have to stay consistently making those. So the third habit is to really cultivate a positive outlook. And this is one, you, you, you specialize in this with working with people on the brain, health, mental health, helping them cultivate that positive outlook about how are they talking to them. 

So how are you talking to yourself? Are you positively talking to yourself every day? Do you get a good start to the day, as far as positivity in your day? Or are you just feeding all kind of junk and the beginning of the day, I mean, do you recommend to people making sure that they get their day started off properly? 

Speaker 0 (18m 37s): Yeah. And through my experience, you have to learn how to be your best friend and say yes, positive things to yourself, not like, oh, you're such a slob. You will never make it. Why are you even trying? I mean, this is not what, the way you want to be talking to yourself. You're never gonna make it. I mean, you have got to be your best encourager. And that's something that I had to learn. I had to learn to be the boss of my brain and not let my brain be the boss of me. 

Wow. What a great point. Because of my Bo my brain is the boss of me. It'll just beat me up. And I'm like, no, I'm the boss. You know, I know where I want to go. And in order for me or you, the listeners need to get to a place. Then you want to encourage yourself. You know, like if you've got a kid, if you're a parent and you've got a kid who's learning how to walk and they, and they fall, do you really tell that kid at, just stay down on the ground? You won't get back up. You'll never learn to walk. 

No, you encourage them because you want them to move out of the house and all that. But you know, be your best encourager. And that begins with us talking to ourselves because we're with ourselves. 

Speaker 1 (19m 57s): Yeah. And right away, as soon as you get up, you know, feed whatever you need to do to feed your head with some good thoughts, not just jump up, read the news, get all the negativity. 

Speaker 0 (20m 6s): Oh, never, never, never read the news. There's nothing positive in the news. I mean, we might, you and I might do 15 minutes a week in news. Right? Right. 

Speaker 1 (20m 15s): Yeah. Well, you know, I checked some of the headlines just to make sure I'm not missing something, but then that's enough, you know, let's get on with life and have a positive outlook on the day. So the next action step, the daily habit would be to invest in yourself, investing in yourself, just like listening to this podcast, feeding your head with great positivity. Listening to other podcasts, listening to audio is purchasing. Some is purchasing books. Like we have here with the slight edge by Jeff Olson. 

I've read it so many times, but you and I love to read books and read books just before bedtime and things that are uplifting and powerful. And that gets you going. And, and whether you want to go to courses, and as far as, you know, if you want to do some online courses or get some personalized coaching, but very simply just whatever you need to do to invest in yourself, that's going to have you become your best self as time goes on. 

I mean, we're a strong believer in that concept of investing in yourself. 

Speaker 0 (21m 21s): Absolutely. And you've got a positive in equals positive out negative in negative out Zig Ziglar says it's so beautifully in a CD that I was listening to. Yes. A CD I was listening to in the car the other day, where he said you were born to when you were born to when I need to hear that stuff. And he said, you are where you are because of what has gone into your brain. So if you're having negative things going into your brain, then you're going to have a negative life. 

But if you're having positive things that are lifting you up, encouraging you to Excel and move forward and up into your best life, then guess what? It's inevitable. You will be living your best life. 

Speaker 1 (22m 6s): Awesome. I love that. 

Speaker 0 (22m 8s): That's a Zig Ziglar. 

Speaker 1 (22m 10s): No, that's just, you know, investing in yourself, listening to those types of concepts, you know, now you're there in your head and you makes you think about it. And the next habit daily decision would be to have integrity. And what I mean by that is I, if I go to, if I work at, cause sometimes you're away in the evening doing some type of work and I haven't worked out yet. And then I, at times it's kind to 8:00 PM at nighttime, even 8:30 PM. 

And I haven't worked out yet or I haven't done a walk or something. I do it because I'm like, okay, well, no, one's watching, but I'm watching. And I know that I need to do it. So I do it. You're the same thing I know you do when you know, it's like, okay, well, no one's watching. I could just skip this or no, one's watching. If I eat this or drink this, I could go ahead. So it's about having integrity for yourself, making those decisions to say, okay, well, no one's watching, but I know here's what I need to do. 

And having that, see 

Speaker 0 (23m 19s): Exactly integrity equals honesty and be honest with yourself. Stop fooling yourself. Yeah. I love that, hun. 

Speaker 1 (23m 25s): It's being honest with yourself. It's not even about being honest with others. It's about being honest for you because you have to be honest with yourself first, before you can be honest with everybody else. 

Speaker 0 (23m 38s): Yeah. And that's how the slight edge works is if you're on, if you've got integrity, I E being honest with yourself with what you're doing then, and you're doing the slight edge positively. Yes. Then it'll work for you. 

Speaker 1 (23m 53s): So I just want to say it's really about the simple mundane little daily decisions, little actions that we do every day consistently over time. And they all compound to me, slight edge decisions, whether the slight edge of life for our physical and mental health is being impacted positively and we're getting better. Or if we're being negatively impacted and falling off it's day upon day upon day building. 

And yes, some days it falls off some days it goes up. But the idea is to have more days where you're consistently having good, positive, mental and physical days. And long-term when you look back, when you go down a year later and you look back and you go, wow, okay. Look at me, look how I've gotten there five years later, 10 years later. And that's what can happen with the slight edge of the life. So hopefully that helps. So listeners out there today to understand a little bit about that with starting out this year, 

Speaker 0 (24m 59s): I would like to mention just the big idea for the slight edge for myself and Michael and for, for you is what you think about and do matters each and every day. And that's something that I say to myself every day is about what I think and do today matters. Is it gonna matter to help you or is it going to be there? 

Is it going to matter to make you worse? 

Speaker 1 (25m 33s): That's beautiful. 

Speaker 0 (25m 34s): I like bottom line things. 

Speaker 1 (25m 36s): I have nothing else to say that that puts it out there. That is a great start. That episode. One of season three here at the NBN shifting my love Dr. Is bell thin here with today. I'm certified calling attrition expert, chef Michael here. We wish everyone out there, less abundant, prosperous, and very, very healthy year, 2022 thing. Great. Serving you today. Check back and see us again. 

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